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The brain and the nervous system are the largest sources of impairment among people suffering from neurodevelopmental disorders. Children with ADD/ADHD, autism, learning disabilities, cerebral palsy, conduct problems, intellectual disability (which is often known as mental retardation), and vision and hearing impairments belong to the group of neurodevelopmental diseases. Neurodevelopmentally affected children often have problems with behavior, memory, learning, speech and language, motor capacities, or other brain functions. Some of the neurodevelopmental disorders are lifelong, but with an increasing age kidโ€™s symptoms and behavioral patterns are frequently changed or altered. These diseases often pose a difficult diagnostic and treatment challenge, the approach usually being a combination of medications, professional counseling, school- and home-based interventions.

The neurodevelopmental disorders have a few features in common. Those are:

  • An onset that is invariably during infancy or childhood;

  • An impairment or delay in the development of functions that are strongly related to biological maturation of the central nervous system; and

  • A steady course that does not involve the remissions and relapses that tend to be characteristic of many mental disorders.

Generally, the dysfunctions concerned are expressively language, visuo-spatial skills or/and motor coordination. This development is typically associated with the worsening of the condition as days go by. Generally, the history is that of a delay or impairment which was already present as far back as when it could be reliably detected in the pediatrician and the child experienced no prior period of normal development. The prevalence of the majority of these malaises in male children is significantly higher compared to female ones.

It is characteristic of developmental disorders that a family of similar or related disorders is common, and there is presumptive evidence that genetic factors play an important role in the aetiology of many cases. Environmental factors often influence the developmental functions affected but in most cases they are not of paramount influence. However, although there is generally good agreement on the overall conceptualization of disorders, the etiology in most cases is unknown and there is continuing uncertaintyย  regarding both the boundaries and the precise subdivisions of developmental disorders.

Moreover, two types of conditions are included in this block that do not entirely meet the broad conceptual definition outlined above. First, there are disorders in which there has been an undoubted phase of prior normal development, such as the childhood disintegrative disorder, the Landau-Kleffner syndrome, and some cases of autism. These conditions are included because, although their onset is different, their characteristics and course have many similarities with the group of developmental disorders; moreover it is not known whether or not they are etiologically distinct. Second, there are disorders that are defined primarily in terms of deviance rather than delay in developmental functioning; this applies especially in autism. Furthermore, there is overlap with other developmental disorders in terms of both the features of individual cases and familial clustering.

A lot of neurodevelopmental issues are driven by genetics, and some cases of illnesse, for instance, intellectual disability, are linked to a certain genes. Instead of having just one single, obvious cause, the source of neurodevelopmental diseases is mostly complex and they consist of many diverse contributing factors. It is probably a blend of genetic, biochemical, psychological factors and environment risk factors that account for these diseases. Not only individual exposure to harmful maternal substance use of drugs, alcohol and tobacco, lower socioeconomic status, preterm birth, low birthweight, the physical environment, and prenatal or childhood exposure to specific environmental contaminants can affect neurodevelopment, but also these contributory environmental factors.

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Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

The disorder referred to as Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is characterized by high level hyperactivity-impulsivity and/or inattention observed across different situations and are most often, and weightier than that experienced by other people in the same developmental phase. Specific studies have shown that ADHD has a negative impact on an academic success, and presents a barrier to career progress as well as to personal relations with peers and family members.

The term of the disorder has transformed over the course of time as the medical specialists have deepened their knowledge on ADHD. The phrase "Attention Deficit Disorder" was first used by the American Psychiatric Association during 1980s, and it was changed to "Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder" in 1987. Some children with ADHD exhibit only hyperactivity or impulsivity, while others may exhibit mainly inattentive characteristics, but in general, the majority of children with ADHD reveal a mixed pattern of hyperactivity/impulsivity and inattentional behavior. The main ADHD symptoms a person can experience may differ at some time. Parents report that about 60% of their ADHD children have a learning disorder, and the same number show conduct disorder. It is very common for children with ADHD to have co-existing conditions.

Signs and symptoms of other diseases might mimic those of ADHD, such as reported for anxiety disorder attacks every year. The numbers have experienced a , depression, and learning difficulties. Similar to the diagnosis of other mental diseases, an ADHD diagnosis involves some degree of clinical judgment on the part of the physician. ADHD has strong clinical validity, which means that affected children share similarities, exhibit symptoms, respond to treatment, and are generally consistently identified by clinicians despite the heterogeneity among children diagnosed with the illness and the difficulties involved in diagnosis.

While several researches on ADHD have focused on the brain activity parts associated with the behaviors typical for the disease, the same number of studies starting from a different perspective of brain activity are needed. Though these findings do not provide a definite answer, the last research has confirmed that children with ADHD more likely than average have problems with the certain practical skills (together known as executive function), especially those related to planning ahead and to monitoring and regulating their own behavior. These skills comprise of response inhibition one s capacity to suppress automatic reactions in circumstances where they are not required, working memory characterized by the maintenance of information in the working space while at the same time focusing on a different task, planning which is an ability to arrange a series of action in order to achieve a particular goal (target), and cognitive flexibility which is one s capacity to adapt a strategy or plan when circumstances change.

The attention regulation problem, which includes hyperactive behavior, is also among the primary symptoms, children with ADHD typically experience. The symptoms include difficulties with vigilance or paying attention to a task for an extended time and alertness, or being ready to respond to new tides of information..

These factors are sometimes even more complicated then that; we have literatures that suggests that the combination of both environmental and genetic ones may contribute to ADHD. A sort of study of the prenatal conditions, one of the most studied environmental factors, lies at the bottom of environmental factors research. A substantial number of investigations have led to the given reason that baby s ADHD symptoms may have been affected if the mother is smoking during pregnancy. On the other hand, these lines of study do not yet conclude, as scientists assume that whether other smoking-related factors, including but not limited to genetics, maternal mental health, stress, use alcohol and those births with low birthweight, have something to do with the mentioned association or not, is another study. Pregnant women s alcohol intake and ADHD are found to be a possible gap in research production, this being less substantial and clear. On the other hand, it has emerged that low birth weight and premature birth increased ADHD risk at school.

Learning Disability

Learning disability (LD) is a general term which covers a neurological disorder that produces the complex interaction between the childโ€™s brain to the external stimuli via the receiving, processing, retaining, and responding to information. The child with a learning disability will probably find it hard to learn the needed skills like reading, writing, listening, speaking, thinking and mathematics. However, childrenโ€™s learning disabilities differ and one might be able to learn some skills better than others. The majority of kids with disabilities in learning normally they have the general or extra normal intelligence, but there are differences in the brain processing the information.

In most cases, the functions affected include language, visuo-spatial skills and/or motor coordination. It is characteristic for the impairments to lessen progressively as children grow older (although milder deficits often remain in adult life). Usually, the history is of a delay or impairment that has been present from as early as it could be reliably detected, with no prior period of normal development. Most of these conditions are several times more common in boys than in girls.

People may get as many as the neurodevelopment pathologies as learning disabilities is not well understood. Genetically, it is not surprising that such an individual might come to be a student of the same school, as family-history may be a factor in the development of disabilities. Maternal troubles during pregnancy and at the time of birth, for instance, the drug or alcohol consumption of expectant mother, or low weight of the baby, lack of oxygen at the time of delivery, or pre-term or prolonged labor, may be leading to neurodevelopment abnormalities.

As can be seen that other neurodevelopmental outcomes to have more than studies related to learning disabilities so as compared to other pollutants. It has been reported in several works that children who have been affected by lead exposure either in learning difficulties of the classroom, while they are of the IQ. Lead exposures have led towards the reduced capability of retaining and retrieving memory, limited rule learning, following directions, planning, speech processing as well as verbal abilities, impairments in the classroom performance of children. Several other reports document linkages between environmental pollutants and learning disabilities for example; a specific research that found a relation between maternal smoking, childhood exposure to secondhand smoke and learning disability diagnoses among the children reported that; also, associations of mercury exposure to language problems among children and inability to memorize and links of PCB exposure to poorer performance in babies than non-exposed babies.

Autism Spectrum Disordersย 

Autism spectrum disorders (ASDs) are a group of developmental disabilities defined by significant social, communication, and behavioral impairments. The term โ€œspectrum disordersโ€ refers to the fact that although people with ASDs share some common symptoms, ASDs affect different people in different ways, with some experiencing very mild symptoms and others experiencing severe symptoms. ASDs encompass autistic disorder and the generally less severe forms, Aspergerโ€™s syndrome and pervasive developmental disorder-not otherwise specified (PDD-NOS). Children with ASDs may lack interest in other people, have trouble showing or talking about feelings, and avoid or resist physical contact. A range of communication problems are seen in children with ASDs: some speak very well, while many children with an ASD do not speak at all. Another hallmark characteristic of ASDs is the demonstration of restrictive or repetitive interests or behaviors, such as lining up toys, flapping hands, rocking his or her body, or spinning in circles.

This group of disorders is characterized by qualitative abnormalities in reciprocal social interactions and in patterns of communication, and by restricted, stereotyped, repetitive repertoire of interests and activities. These qualitative abnormalities are a pervasive feature of the individualโ€™s functioning in all situations, although they may vary in degree. In most cases, development is abnormal from infancy and, with only a few exceptions, the conditions become manifest during the first 5 years of life. It is usual, but not invariable, for there to be some degree of general cognitive impairment but the disorders are defined in terms of behavior that is deviant in relation to mental age.ย 

These pervasive developmental disorders can be further classified into childhood autism, atypical autism, rettโ€™s syndrome and aspergerโ€™s syndrome.

Childhood autism is a pervasive developmental disorder defined by the presence of abnormal and/or impaired development that is manifest before the age of 3 years, and by the characteristic type of abnormal functioning in all the three areas of social interaction, communication, and restricted, repetitive behaviour. This disorder occurs in boys three to four times more often than in girls

Atypical autism is another pervasive developmental disorder that differs from autism in terms either of age of onset or of failure to fulfil all three sets of diagnostic criteria. Thus, abnormal and/or impaired development becomes manifest for the first time only after the age of 3 years; and/or there are insufficient demonstrable abnormalities in one or two of the three areas of psychopathology required for the diagnosis of autism (namely, reciprocal social interactions, communication, and restrictive, stereotyped, repetitive behavior) in spite of characteristic abnormalities in other area(s). Atypical autism arises most often in profoundly retarded individuals whose very low level of functioning provides little scope for exhibition of the specific deviant behaviors required for the diagnosis of autism; it also occurs in individuals with a severe specific developmental disorder of receptive language.

Rettโ€™s syndrome is a condition of unknown cause, so far reported only in girls, which has been differentiated on the basis of a characteristic onset, course, and pattern of symptomatology. Typically, apparently normal or near-normal early development is followed by partial or complete loss of acquired hand skills and of speech, together with deceleration in head growth, usually with an onset between 7 and 24 months of age. Hand-wringing stereotypies, hyperventilation and loss of purposive hand movements are particularly characteristic. Social and play development are arrested in the first 2 or 3 years, but social interest tends to be maintained.ย 

Aspergerโ€™s syndrome is a disorder of uncertain nosological validity, characterised by the same kind of qualitative abnormalities of reciprocal social interaction that typify autism, together with a restricted, stereotyped, repetitive repertoire of interests and activities. The disorder differs from autism primarily in that there is no general delay or retardation in language or in cognitive development. Most individuals are of normal general intelligence but it is common for them to be markedly clumsy; the condition predominantly occurs in boys.

Intellectual Disability

The most commonly used definitions of intellectual disability (also referred to as mental retardation) emphasize subaverage intellectual functioning before the age of 18, usually defined as an IQ less than 70 and impairments in life skills such as communication, self-care, home living, and social or interpersonal skills. Different severity categories, ranging from mild to severe retardation, are defined on the basis of IQ scores.

โ€œIntellectual disabilityโ€ is used as the preferred term for this condition in the disabilities sector, but the term โ€œmental retardationโ€ continues to be used in the contexts of law and public policy when designating eligibility for state and federal programs.

Intellectual Disability is a condition of arrested or incomplete development of the mind, which is especially characterized by impairment of skills manifested during the developmental period, which contribute to the overall level of intelligence, i.e. cognitive, language, motor, and social abilities. Retardation can occur with or without any other mental or physical disorder. However, individuals suffering from intellectual disability can experience the full range of mental disorders, and the prevalence of other mental disorders is at least three or four times greater in this population than in the general population. In addition, people with intellectual disability are at a greater risk of exploitation and physical/sexual abuse. Adaptive behaviour is always impaired, but in protected social environments where support is available this impairment may not be at all obvious in subjects with intellectual disability.

Intelligence is not a unitary characteristic but is assessed on the basis of a large number of different, more-or-less specific skills. Although the general tendency is for all these skills to develop to a similar level in each individual, there can be large discrepancies, especially in people suffering from intellectual disability. Such individuals may show severe impairments in one particular area (e.g. language), or may have a particular area of higher skill (e.g. in simple visuo-spatial tasks) against a background of severe intellectual disability. This presents problems when determining the diagnostic category in which a retared person shall be classified into.ย 

If the proper standardised IQ tests are used, the IQ range of 50 to 69 is indicative of mild intellectual disability in which understanding and use of language tend to be delayed to a varying degree, and executive speech problems that interfere with the development of independence may persist into adult life.ย 

IQ range of 35 to 49 is indicative of moderate intellectual disability. Discrepant profiles of abilities are common in this group, with some individuals achieving higher levels in visuo-spatial skills than in tasks dependent on language, while others are markedly clumsy but enjoy social interaction and simple conversations while others have only enough language to communicate their basic needs. Some never learn to use language, though they may understand simple instructions and may learn to use manual signs to compensate to some extent for their speech disabilities.

Individuals falling under the IQ range of 20 to 34 are classified under the category of severe intellectual disability. Most individuals in this category suffer from a marked degree of motor impairment or other associated deficits, indicating the presence of clinically significant damage to or maldevelopment of the central nervous system.ย 

Individuals with IQ falling under 20 are severely limited in their ability to understand or comply with requests or instructions. Most such individuals are immobile or severely restricted in mobility, incontinent, and capable at most of only very rudimentary forms of nonverbal communication. They possess little or no ability to care for their own basic needs, and require constant help and supervision.

Researchers have identified some causes of intellectual disability, including genetic disorders, traumatic injuries, and prenatal events such as maternal infection or exposure to alcohol. However, the causes of intellectual disability are unknown in 30โ€“50% of all cases. The causes are more frequently identified for cases of severe retardation (IQ less than 50), whereas the cause of mild retardation (IQ between 50 and 70) is unknown in more than 75% of cases. Exposures to environmental contaminants could be a contributing factor to the cases of mild retardation where the cause is unknown. Exposure to high levels of lead and mercury have been associated with intellectual disability. Furthermore, lead, mercury, and PCBs all have been found to have adverse effects on intelligence and cognitive functioning in children, and recent studies have reported associations of a number of other environmental contaminants with childhood IQ deficits, including organophosphate pesticides, PBDEs,75 phthalates,79 and PAHs.83,180 Exposure to environmental contaminants that reduce IQ has the potential to increase the proportion of the population with IQ less than 70, thus increasing the incidence of intellectual disability in an exposed population.

Some Statistics for Different Disorders under the category of Neurodevelopmental disorders:

  • From 1997 to 2013, the proportion of children ages 5 to 17 years reported to have ever been diagnosed with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) increased from 6.3% in 1993 to 10.7% in 2012 and 9.9% in 2013.ย 
  • In 2010โ€“2013, 13.1% of children from families living below the poverty level were reported to have ADHD compared with 9.1% of children from families living at or above the poverty level. This difference was statistically significant.ย 
  • In 2013, 8.2% of children ages 5 to 17 years had ever been diagnosed with a learning disability. There was little change in this percentage between 1997 and 2013.ย ย 
  • For the years 2010โ€“2013, the percentage of boys reported to have a learning disability (10.4%) was higher than for girls (6.6%). This difference was statistically significant.ย 
  • For the years 2010โ€“2013, the percentage of children reported to have a learning disability was higher for children living below the poverty level (12.8%) compared with those living at or above the poverty level (7.4%), a statistically significant difference.
  • The percentage of children ages 5 to 17 years reported to have ever been diagnosed with autism rose from 0.1% in 1997 to 1.2% in 2013. This increasing trend was statistically significant.
  • For the years 2010โ€“2013, the rate of reported autism was more than four times higher in boys than in girls, 1.9% and 0.4%, respectively. This difference was statistically significant.ย 
  • For the years 2010โ€“2013, the prevalence of autism was similar for children living below the poverty level and those living at or above the poverty level.
  • In 2013, 1.4% of children ages 5 to 17 years were reported to have ever been diagnosed with intellectual disability (mental retardation). This percentage fluctuated between 0.6% and 0.9% from 1997 to 2010, and was between 1.3% and 1.4% from 2011 to 2013.
  • In 2010โ€“2013, 17% of children from families with incomes below the poverty level were reported to have intellectual disability, compared with 1.1% of children from families at or above the poverty level, a statistically significant difference.

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